To complement that: Requiring my interlocutor to make everything explicit is also a defence against having my mind changed in ways I don’t endorse but that I can’t quite pick apart right now. Which kinda overlaps with your example, I think.
I sometimes will feel like my low-level associations are changing in a way I’m not sure I endorse, halt, and ask for something that the more explicit part of me reflectively endorses. If they’re able to provide that, then I will willingly continue making the low-level updates, but if they can’t then there’s a bit of an impasse, at which point I will just start trying to communicate emotionally what feels off about it (e.g. in your example I could imagine saying “I feel some panic in my shoulders and a sense that you’re trying to control my decisions”). Actually, sometimes I will just give the emotional info first. There’s a lot of contextual details that lead me to figure out which one I do.
To complement that: Requiring my interlocutor to make everything explicit is also a defence against having my mind changed in ways I don’t endorse but that I can’t quite pick apart right now. Which kinda overlaps with your example, I think.
I sometimes will feel like my low-level associations are changing in a way I’m not sure I endorse, halt, and ask for something that the more explicit part of me reflectively endorses. If they’re able to provide that, then I will willingly continue making the low-level updates, but if they can’t then there’s a bit of an impasse, at which point I will just start trying to communicate emotionally what feels off about it (e.g. in your example I could imagine saying “I feel some panic in my shoulders and a sense that you’re trying to control my decisions”). Actually, sometimes I will just give the emotional info first. There’s a lot of contextual details that lead me to figure out which one I do.