It is condescending because you assumed that I didn’t know what you were telling me, and you presume to tell me how to make decisions about what I “should” do. And the reason why it irritated me enough to complain is because I know the source of that condescension: I was asking a question in a vulnerable (i.e., feminine) way. And I got a cheap hit for not using language the way a man does. But I’m not saying it’s sexism; it’s just a cheap shot.
If someone speaks the obvious, then it’s just noise, no new information, and so the speaker should be castigated for destructive stupidity. Someone or I.
This comment is condescending and specious.
That comment was meta. It isn’t condescending, as it’s not about you.
It is condescending because you assumed that I didn’t know what you were telling me, and you presume to tell me how to make decisions about what I “should” do. And the reason why it irritated me enough to complain is because I know the source of that condescension: I was asking a question in a vulnerable (i.e., feminine) way. And I got a cheap hit for not using language the way a man does. But I’m not saying it’s sexism; it’s just a cheap shot.
It’s about me because you imply that I don’t already know what you’re saying, and I could benefit from this wise advice.
If someone speaks the obvious, then it’s just noise, no new information, and so the speaker should be castigated for destructive stupidity. Someone or I.