I’m the extrovert, yes. In the sense of needing people, not in the sense of finding them easy to be around (I have a friend who finds it fantastically amusing to call herself a social introvert and me an antisocial extrovert, which is a fair enough description). I actually get very little value from interacting with strangers, especially in large groups. I need people who I’m reasonably close to in order to accomplish anything, and that takes some time to build up to. None of my strategies for making new friends will be present in a no-pre-reviv-friends-or-family wake-up scenario.
I actually get very little value from interacting with strangers, especially in large groups. I need people who I’m reasonably close to in order to accomplish anything
If the choice were available, would you change any of that?
I think that would depend heavily on the mechanism by which it’d be changed. I’d try cognitive exercises or something to adjust the value I get from strangers and large groups; I don’t want to be drugged.
I think of an extrovert as someone who recharges by being around other people, and an introvert as someone who recharges by being alone, regardless of social proclivity or ability.
“I make new friends easily” is one of the standard agree/disagree statements used to test for extraversion which is why I find this usage a little unusual.
No, it seems Alicorn’s usage of extrovert is valid. It is just not what I’d previously understood by the word. The ‘makes friends easily’ part of extrovert is the salient feature of extraversion for me.
It’s all on an introvert/extrovert test, but to me the salient feature of extroversion is finding interaction with others energizing and finding being alone draining. Introverts find it tiring to interact with others and they find being alone energizing, on a continuous spectrum.
I fall in the dead center on an introvert/extrovert test; I’m not sure how uncommon that is.
I’m the extrovert, yes. In the sense of needing people, not in the sense of finding them easy to be around (I have a friend who finds it fantastically amusing to call herself a social introvert and me an antisocial extrovert, which is a fair enough description). I actually get very little value from interacting with strangers, especially in large groups. I need people who I’m reasonably close to in order to accomplish anything, and that takes some time to build up to. None of my strategies for making new friends will be present in a no-pre-reviv-friends-or-family wake-up scenario.
If the choice were available, would you change any of that?
I think that would depend heavily on the mechanism by which it’d be changed. I’d try cognitive exercises or something to adjust the value I get from strangers and large groups; I don’t want to be drugged.
Hmm, ok. I’d say you’re using ‘extrovert’ in a fairly non-standard way but I think I understand what you’re saying now.
I think of an extrovert as someone who recharges by being around other people, and an introvert as someone who recharges by being alone, regardless of social proclivity or ability.
“I make new friends easily” is one of the standard agree/disagree statements used to test for extraversion which is why I find this usage a little unusual.
But it’s not the only agree/disagree statement on the test, right?
No, it seems Alicorn’s usage of extrovert is valid. It is just not what I’d previously understood by the word. The ‘makes friends easily’ part of extrovert is the salient feature of extraversion for me.
It’s all on an introvert/extrovert test, but to me the salient feature of extroversion is finding interaction with others energizing and finding being alone draining. Introverts find it tiring to interact with others and they find being alone energizing, on a continuous spectrum.
I fall in the dead center on an introvert/extrovert test; I’m not sure how uncommon that is.
(Although naturally there tends to be a correlation with the latter two.)