which in the case of two kids, of of which minds uncertainty more than the other, penalizes the child who dislikes uncertainty. “Do X or I won’t allow a schedule” becomes a valid threat.
Sorry, that’s not what I’m saying. For something that is a good fit for a schedule, like a chore rotation, a schedule would be the default. Only if both kids wanted randomization would we do that. Which means that if one kid didn’t like randomization, we wouldn’t.
Ah, I thought you meant “if both kids agreed to a schedule you would, otherwise it would be randomization”. Looking back, I missed that you meant the other way around.
Sorry, that’s not what I’m saying. For something that is a good fit for a schedule, like a chore rotation, a schedule would be the default. Only if both kids wanted randomization would we do that. Which means that if one kid didn’t like randomization, we wouldn’t.
Ah, I thought you meant “if both kids agreed to a schedule you would, otherwise it would be randomization”. Looking back, I missed that you meant the other way around.