It’s basically what I meant above, but above I didn’t put in the details. As a nerd myself that’s a more instinctive response than actually speaking up and asserting boundaries. But I’m fairly certain that asserting boundaries is often the more effective action.
I also think that this lack of this assertion of boundaries is what makes Nice Guys™ unattractive. Woman like guys who are nice in the sense that they give others compliements and improve their surroundings but they find guys who don’t assert boundaries in situations that warrant setting boundaries less attractive.
It’s basically what I meant above, but above I didn’t put in the details. As a nerd myself that’s a more instinctive response than actually speaking up and asserting boundaries. But I’m fairly certain that asserting boundaries is often the more effective action.
I also think that this lack of this assertion of boundaries is what makes Nice Guys™ unattractive. Woman like guys who are nice in the sense that they give others compliements and improve their surroundings but they find guys who don’t assert boundaries in situations that warrant setting boundaries less attractive.
OK. Tapping out.