[Attempt to engage with your comment substantively]
(The conversational move I want to recommend to you here is something like, “You keep saying X. It sort of seems like you think that I believe not-X. I’d rather you directly characterized what you think I’m getting wrong, and why, instead of arguing on the assumption that I believe something silly.” If you don’t explicitly invite this, people are going to be inhibited about claiming that you believe something silly, and arguing to you that you believe it, since it’s generally rude to “put words in other people’s mouths” and people get unhelpfully defensive about that pretty reliably, so it’s natural to try to let you save face by skipping over the unpleasantness there.)
Yeah, I think that’s a good recommendation and it’s helpful to hear it. I think it’s really excellent if someone says “I think you’re saying X which seems silly to me, can you clarify what you really mean?” In Double-Cruxes, that is ideal and my inner sim says it goes down well with everyone I’m used to talking with. Though seems quite plausible others don’t share that and I should be more proactive + know that I need to be careful in how I going about doing this move. Here I felt very offended/insulted by what seemed like I thought the view being confidently assigned to me, which I let mindkill me. :(
I think there’s also a big disagreement about how frequently someone’s motivations are interfering with their ability to get the right answer, or how frequently we should bring up something like this.
I’m not sure how to measure, but my confidence interval feels wide on this. I think there probably isn’t any big disagreement here between us here.
It seems like you’re thinking of that as something like the “nuclear option,” which will of course be a self-fulfilling prophecy, but also prevents anything like a rationality forum from working, given how much bias comes from trying to get the wrong answer.
If this means “talking about someone’s motivations for saying things”, I agree with you that that is very important for a rationality space to be able to do that. I don’t see it as a nuclear option, not by far. I’d hope often that people would respond very well to it “You know what? You’re right and I’m really you mentioned it. :)”
I have more thoughts on my exchange with Zack, though I’d want to discuss them if it really made sense to, and carefully. I think we have some real disagreements about it.
[Attempt to engage with your comment substantively]
Yeah, I think that’s a good recommendation and it’s helpful to hear it. I think it’s really excellent if someone says “I think you’re saying X which seems silly to me, can you clarify what you really mean?” In Double-Cruxes, that is ideal and my inner sim says it goes down well with everyone I’m used to talking with. Though seems quite plausible others don’t share that and I should be more proactive + know that I need to be careful in how I going about doing this move. Here I felt very offended/insulted by what seemed like I thought the view being confidently assigned to me, which I let mindkill me. :(
I’m not sure how to measure, but my confidence interval feels wide on this. I think there probably isn’t any big disagreement here between us here.
If this means “talking about someone’s motivations for saying things”, I agree with you that that is very important for a rationality space to be able to do that. I don’t see it as a nuclear option, not by far. I’d hope often that people would respond very well to it “You know what? You’re right and I’m really you mentioned it. :)”
I have more thoughts on my exchange with Zack, though I’d want to discuss them if it really made sense to, and carefully. I think we have some real disagreements about it.