Something I struggle with (probably largely due to ADHD) is building habits/patterns of being aware of things I want to notice/practice cognitively.
For example, I find myself easily becoming somewhat thoughtless in social situations, in that I do not stop to observe, think, and measure my actions and responses at all. I have, for a couple years now, been intending to work on this, and not really doing anything to act on this intention. I often plan to step back and just observe in social situations, but never do.
Since I struggle with this, I figure that the best thing I can do now is try and pick up some strategies for both reminding myself to think back to cognitive patterns I want to build when I enter into the relevant situation, and for doing said things.
So, does anyone have suggestions on how one can:
More consistently remember something they want to watch out for in various situations (especially social/fast-paced situations)
Build new mental patterns/habits (in general)
Effectively observe social situations as they occur, in person, to learn from the interactions in order to develop social skills (bonus if the strategy allows for one to not appear/be awkward or violate social etiquette)
Somewhat less relevantly, banish aversions to human connection/intimacies that make things like eye contact difficult/overwhelming (the aversion is mostly habitual at this point)
[Question] Building awareness habits (cognitive)
Something I struggle with (probably largely due to ADHD) is building habits/patterns of being aware of things I want to notice/practice cognitively.
For example, I find myself easily becoming somewhat thoughtless in social situations, in that I do not stop to observe, think, and measure my actions and responses at all. I have, for a couple years now, been intending to work on this, and not really doing anything to act on this intention. I often plan to step back and just observe in social situations, but never do.
Since I struggle with this, I figure that the best thing I can do now is try and pick up some strategies for both reminding myself to think back to cognitive patterns I want to build when I enter into the relevant situation, and for doing said things.
So, does anyone have suggestions on how one can:
More consistently remember something they want to watch out for in various situations (especially social/fast-paced situations)
Build new mental patterns/habits (in general)
Effectively observe social situations as they occur, in person, to learn from the interactions in order to develop social skills (bonus if the strategy allows for one to not appear/be awkward or violate social etiquette)
Somewhat less relevantly, banish aversions to human connection/intimacies that make things like eye contact difficult/overwhelming (the aversion is mostly habitual at this point)