Whenever the topic of your interests comes up, just steer the conversation towards their life and their interests. You’ll be speaking 10% of the time yet you’ll appear like a brilliant conversationalist.
If everyone in the conversation is employing this method, then chances are higher that the others actually want to hear about your esoteric topics. If you pause early and give them a chance to talk about themselves (or for them to press for more), that’ll keep you synched up with what they want.
I was thinking more like two people each trying to get the other person to do that, like people at a door getting jammed saying “After you,” “After you,” etc.
All the times this has happened to me, one person would come up with a Schelling-pointy reason why the other person’s recent life was more interesting (e.g. they had just come back from a trip abroad or something).
I have never actually seen this happen, and I use that method all the time. I don’t have an explanation for why, since I rarely think about problems I don’t have.
This works.
What happens when both people employ that method?
If everyone in the conversation is employing this method, then chances are higher that the others actually want to hear about your esoteric topics. If you pause early and give them a chance to talk about themselves (or for them to press for more), that’ll keep you synched up with what they want.
People talking to each other about their lives and their interests! Success!
I was thinking more like two people each trying to get the other person to do that, like people at a door getting jammed saying “After you,” “After you,” etc.
All the times this has happened to me, one person would come up with a Schelling-pointy reason why the other person’s recent life was more interesting (e.g. they had just come back from a trip abroad or something).
I have never actually seen this happen, and I use that method all the time. I don’t have an explanation for why, since I rarely think about problems I don’t have.